Do you often feel like you do not deserve your job even though you are highly skilled?

You do not believe that you deserve your spot in your career,social circle and life as a whole? Well, I suffer from this too. I constantly have felt like a fraud in my career and even while blogging. There were days I felt I wasn’t good enough to publish my blogs and also felt like my blog posts were not good enough.

Well, this is what Impostor syndrome does to you. It is  also known as impostor phenomenon, impostorism, fraud syndrome or the impostor experience.

It is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.

This psychological phenomenon, known as imposter syndrome, reflects a belief that you’re an inadequate and incompetent failure despite evidence that indicates you’re skilled and quite successful.

It causes people to doubt their achievements and fear that others will expose them as fraudulent. The condition can affect anyone, regardless of their job or social status.

Psychologists first described the syndrome in 1978. Research from 2011 suggests that approximately 70 percent of people will experience at least one episode of impostor syndrome in their lives. It may be especially prevalent among women considered to be high-achievers.

Imposter sysdrome has symptoms like Anxiety,Perfectionism,Self doubt and Fear of failure.

I have been in situations where I doubted myself and could not believe that I am actually good at something,even though those close to me would point out that I did good or that I am talented.

I have felt like an imposter just owning this blog.

People often suffer Impostor syndrome because they tend to believe that others are as equally talented as they are. So they feel like they do not deserve the benefits or fruits of there work.

This (Impostor syndrome) can be defined as a collection of feelings of inadequacy that persist despite evident success.

Understandably, I realise,these are feelings we all have.

Highly successful people and high achievers are more susceptible.

Maya Angelou ( American poet, singer, memoirist, and civil rights activist) suffered from this syndrome despite having published seven autobiographies, three books of essays, several books of poetry, and is credited with a list of plays, movies, and television shows spanning over 50 years.

Despite her own self-doubt, Angelou was a fiercely accomplished person. She was nominated for the Pulitzer Prize and a Tony award, won five Grammys for her spoken recordings, and served on two presidential committees. All this while also charming readers with her honesty, vulnerability, and personal fortitude

People who have been deemed successful have actually come forward to say they have felt like frauds.

Many people experience symptoms for a limited time, such as in the first few weeks of a new job. Others may battle feelings of incompetency for their whole lives .

The Executive

Every time I was called on in class, I was sure that I was about to embarrass myself. Every time I took a test, I was sure that it had gone badly. And every time I didn’t embarrass myself — or even excelled — I believed that I had fooled everyone yet again. One day soon, the jig would be up … This phenomenon of capable people being plagued by self-doubt has a name — the impostorsyndrome. Both men and women are susceptible to the impostor syndrome, but women tend to experience it more intensely and be more limited by it.
—Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In
Sheryl Sandberg is the Chief Operating Officer at Facebook. In addition to being an accomplished tech executive, in her book Lean In she explores the ways women (and men) can make a welcoming and diverse working environment that encourages women to pursue leadership. She has inspired millions of women to advocate for themselves professionally and push through feelings of inadequacy.

Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In

How to tell that you could be suffering from Impostor Syndrome/Symptoms

Self Sabotage/Self Doubt

You tend to have low self confidence and a fear of failure. You are always in a constant internal struggle between achieving success and being found out.

You attribute success to external factors. For instance, you will say you were just lucky.


Perfectionism and imposter syndrome often go hand-in-hand. Think about it: Perfectionists set excessively high goals for themselves, and when they fail to reach a goal, they experience major self-doubt and worry about measuring up. Whether they realize it or not, this group can also be control freaks, feeling like if they want something done right, they have to do it themselves.

The Superwoman/man

Since people who experience this phenomenon are convinced they’re phonies amongst real-deal colleagues, they often push themselves to work harder and harder to measure up. But this is just a false cover-up for their insecurities, and the work overload may harm not only their own mental health, but also their relationships with others.

How to overcome Impostor syndrome

First you have to start by recognising it in yourself and others. Recognise that you suffer chronic self doubt that overrides any feelings of success or external proof of your competence .

Recognise the feelings when they emerge.

Remind yourself that it’s normal not to know everything and that you will find out more as you progress.

Reframe failure as a learning opportunity. Find out the lessons and use them constructively in future. This is a critical lesson for everyone .

Seek support. Everyone needs help: recognise that you can seek assistance and that you don’t have to do everything alone. This will give you a good reality check and help you talk things through.

Visualise your success. Keep your eye on the outcome – completing the task or making the presentation, which will keep you focused and calm

I hope this makes a difference in your life.

Share your thoughts.

Sending light and love your way.

Sources; Google, Wikipedia,Harvard Business Review,Grammarly and Standard Digital

Published by Miss Malika

I am Malika. The author behind this "amazing" blog. I had been looking for a safe space to document my thoughts, growth, fears and share my Adventure experience. This space seemed like the best place to start off. That was in 2015. Little did I know that it will be the most exciting part of my life. I am a lover of life and humans. I am always up for an adventure and I believe in trying out new things. I love to share my journey with you. I live in Nairobi, Kenya. Get in touch with me at marionmalika3@gmail.com Here's to Becoming...

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