Did You know that you  are the average of the five people you spend most of your time with? Your circle of friends influence who you become. This is because, the people you spend most of your time with will influence your thoughts and actions.  They  greatly influence your choices.  As the old adage says ,’ birds of the same feathers flock together’.

Proverbs 13:20 GNT, Keep company with the wise and you will become wise. If you make friends with stupid people you will be ruined.

There are two variables that affect how much of your thoughts and actions are influenced by people around you. The first is your consciousness and resilience as an individual. The second, is the collective sum of the consciousness of the people you are with. These combine to give you a weighted impact on who you become.

Beware of the people you spend most of your time with because you will consciously or unconsciously start thinking or acting like them. Who you are with can elevate you as much as it can bring you down.


According to Celestine Chua, founder of Personal Excellence blog, You may be the most conscious and smartest individual around, but if you are constantly surrounded by negative, fear-based people in your life, it will have an impact on who you eventually become and your progression in life. If you are heavily rooted in yourself, there might be a limited downside that negative friends can bring you. However, you are also getting a limited upside because you are spending time with people who are holding you back vs people who can be elevating you.

If you hang out with a group of successful, positive-minded individuals who believe in taking responsibility for their lives, you will move to become a proactive individual who shapes his/her future. If you hang out with a bunch of pessimists who believe the world is out to get them and there is nothing worthwhile, you will start descending into the negative whirlpool at some point, even if you are initially a positive individual.

Of course, this does not mean you should sever relationships or cut away every single person who does not  contribute to your goals. It just means you should reduce the amount of contact you are having with people who do not enable you to become a better person. Only in the event that the person is seriously dragging you down should you resort to cutting him/her completely away. Remember, if you are entrenching yourself in relationships which are not elevating you or bringing yourself forward, you are not really helping yourself nor anybody else since you are not being the best you can be and subsequently, not being the best you can be to them.

Are your friends elevating you or holding you back?


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